letting go

The trade-off for not feeling lonely and being close to others is that on occasion, some of those people, a small minority of them, will fail us. Some people that we think well of will let us down. And some times in a few very rare instances, that connection to that trusted person will be irreparable. This price is worth it though when we look around at all the people we have trusted and loved and can appreciate how full and rich our lives are as a result of those people.

And there is one additional bright side to betrayal as well: it opens the way for us to make room for others who will come into our lives some time down the road. I think of it as clearing out the cobwebs, getting my priorities back in line. We no longer need to invest in someone who disappointed us – we can just let them go.
And there’s always Joan Jett’s take:


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5 responses to “letting go

  1. Col! I am so honored to have made an appearance in your post. I believe every word of that post — this really is a time for change and renewal and we should embrace it. I know that isn’t always easy – heck, most of the time it flat out sucks. But looking back on my life when I’ve had to let go of people I love because they disappointed and let me down in a big way, I see this wake of others who came rushing forward to fill my life again, for the better! -C

  2. superdave524

    Like the quote. Like the spirit. Like the music (though you coulda gone with The J. Geils Band. C.S. Lewis weighed in similarly many moons ago. Something like, “If you love anything, even a pet, you will have your heart hurt and possibly broken. But the alternative is to harden your heart. To make it unbreakable. And there it will become like a tomb”. Something like that. Wait, here’s the quote: Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.

    Yeah, that’s the stuff.

  3. Bro Bri

    I won’t get deep, or comment on the content of the post, but would just like to say Joan Jett and the Blackhearts and The Runaways are both underrated bands and true rock n’ rollas.

  4. col

    WOW Sd that is very very powerful, thanks for sharing!

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